Things Can Change
Do you remember the image that I used on Monday for my blog about dreams? Well, this is the very same beginning image that I changed a different way in iColorama. I love the versatility of this app which really allows the user a " the skies are the limit" approach to creating. Such is the positive side of change. Yet we humans typically don't embrace change well. We like to remain in our comfort zones and often fear the untried and the unknown. When I think about my life before my husband died four years ago, it was in most respects radically different from what it is today, and I know that I have changed as a person, too. In that instance I initially did not choose a different life. It was thrust upon me by circumstances beyond my control. That makes it harder with which to deal. It is not like making a decision to sell your home and move away to a new state where you are, in many ways, starting all over with everything. Unexpected change is traumatic and you can either deal with it or not. But if you don't accept the challenge, you are cheating yourself of opportunities beyond your imagination. I think the phrase "life is a journey" is a wonderful and positive description, and it has made me remember one of my favorite poems, Robert Frost's "The Road Not Taken." The last three lines have always spoken to me, but especially now, four years later, looking back on my four year journey to where I am today. He wrote:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
Although I had to make a difficult choice when I found myself suddenly in a place in life where "two roads diverged," I have never regretted taking the one "less traveled by." Though change is seldom easy. In fact, we can feel overwhelmed by it and believe we have little control over it. But life really is all about change. Nothing really stays the same. We grow older. We become more educated. We try new jobs. Relationships change. The world around us is in constant flux both in big and little ways, something we have certainly learned all too well in the past year. So, in actuality, there are many, many times in which we have to make the decision about the road we are going to take. Not always will the road less traveled be the right one, but I think more often than not it, it just may be. I am glad that I am still willing to take them, because they have made all the difference.